Work and Love
(From a random thought on a digestion walk. I transcribed this while dictating on my phone. So this may be a brutal read but you’ll hopefully get the point).
What is love? Take a moment. Think about what love is at the end of the day. There are many many ways of interpreting it. This debate is about as old as time. What I am about to talk about is a very narrow interpretation of it. It’s romantic love, but not just standalone, but through an evolutionary lens.
Evolutionary speaking, love is a task to pass on your genes with a mate. What does this look like in practice? A ton of emotions. Joy. Angst. Elation. Depression. It’s super messy. But at the end of the day, it’s because both partners are very invested. (I think this is called the “honeymoon phase”, which, on average, exists as long as it needs to exist to protect a baby. Think about it, humans, unlike other mammals, come out of the womb half cooked. We take time to develop, and therefore require a lot of care. Evolution has rewarded parents that stuck together to protect their young. Other precocial mammals, like horses, whose young come out of the womb practically ready to go, don’t really care about their partners). Anyways, back to the honeymoon phase, look at the actions of both partners. They’re constantly communicating, maybe even obsessed/infatuated, etc. And that’s a generalization, it’s everywhere. This is a product of 27,000 generations over the 300,000 year lifespan of a human.
Now, I want you to apply this topic to work. What’s the job of love again? To pass on your genes. Do you think two partners who never felt anything towards each other were able to create the miracle of life? And watch it succeed into adulthood? My guess is absolutely not. They were out-competed by those with passion. You have to actually love your partner for the miracle of life to happen. Only the people who loved, and who turned that love into action, were actually successful in this evolutionary job.
So what about for work? And the job of the entrepreneur? Do you think someone who is ambivalent, or antagonistic towards their job is ever going to get anything notable done? Once again, of course not! You have to have the same level of passion if you wanna really really want to get something done in a successful manner. You have to be just as obsessed as it feels to be in love. This means constantly working on your project, and being infatuated with it to the point you are thinking of it in the shower.
The good news, if you are searching for success, is that so many people hate their jobs/what they do for work, or are straight up just lazy, that if you find a way to be in love with what you do, being successful, my guess, will be relatively easy.
Further questions: is that infatuation with work what we call “drive” by today’s standards? or is it something that you have to manually override and artificially create? Or how do you find what you love?